The Querent (female, age 25, Ohio) revealed she is currently “getting out of” a relationship that is “very volatile.” She recently had an “awesome first date” with a New Guy. There is a strong physical attraction but she doesn’t think they have an equally strong mental connection. She wants to know how she should approach this new relationship, how can she steer it in the right direction?
After some thought about her situation and question, I decided to ask the Tarot what does this woman really need to know about this potential new relationship? I pulled three cards:
| The Answer | VII-THE CHARIOT FOUR OF CUPS / Overlooking What Is of Value KNIGHT OF CUPS / The Ladies Man |
Note: The cards used for this Reading
are from the Hanson-Roberts Tarot Deck, U.S. GAMES SYSTEMS, INC., Stamford, CT
06902 USA.
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VII-CHARIOT - This card confirms that action has already been taken (the first date has already occurred). But VII-CHARIOT also connotes a sense of "rushing into things." The card suggests that she ask herself, "Why are you rushing into something new?" |
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FOUR OF CUPS - This card describes the "New Guy" as someone who is more interested in "face value" than what is beneath the surface. He may be too self-absorbed to see what she really has to offer him, and/or he may not recognize her value. |
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KNIGHT OF CUPS - This card strongly supports Four of Cups above. KNIGHT OF CUPS sometimes carries the connotation of the "Don Juan" card (the Ladies Man). This Knight is romantic and flirtatious. He is interested in an affair and not much more. This card suggests that if anything, he will want to have a romantic diversion with the Querent rather than a lasting romantic relationship. |
Mary's Comment - One of my first thoughts upon reading the Querent’s email was why would you want to be with someone you cannot connect with mentally?
I decided to cast a Horary (an astrological chart drawn for the moment I read and understand the question) to gain additional insight. I think I got more than the Querent bargained for:
In the Horary chart, the Querent is ruled by Jupiter and the Moon. The New Guy is ruled by Mercury...
There is an opportunity for them to have a relationship (applying sextile between the Querent’s significator Jupiter and the New Guy’s significator Mercury). However, before that sextile becomes exact, Mercury (New Guy) will exactly oppose Chiron, planet of woundedness. Chiron is placed in Aquarius which can show detachment. It is possible the New Guy will “mentally detach” before any relationship with the Querent is solidified...
Jupiter (Querent) approaches the New Guy’s 5th house cusp. The 5th house rules romances and love affairs. This shows me that it is the Querent who is pursuing the romantic relationship. Mercury (New Guy) is placed in the 9th house of the chart suggesting he stays “philosophically distant.” Additionally, Mercury in Leo (New Guy) is peregrine (no essential dignity) and in a cadent (9th) house suggesting he has little to offer our Querent...
The Moon, co-ruler of the Querent, has just separated from an opposition to Jupiter describing her recent break-up. The Moon will next be conjuncting (joining) Mars which suggests a relationship with the New Guy may also be volatile, angry and emotional. (Mars rules the 5th house of romance and love affairs in this chart.)
In a Horary Chart about relationships, the Sun can give important information about the man. In this chart, the Sun is in Cancer, an emotional sign. It is trine Uranus (volatile) and squares both the Moon (the Querent) and Jupiter (Querent’s significator). This looks like trouble to me…
The Sun (giving information about the New Guy) is also in the 8th house of the chart suggesting he may be more interested in a sexual relationship than anything else…
Mercury (New Guy) is almost exact conjunct Venus, ruler of the New Guy’s 12th house of secrets and 5th house of romance/ love affairs. Is there a secret girlfriend? I checked the Arabian Part of Deceit. It is placed in the 8th house of the chart (sex) closely trine the Moon’s North & South Nodes (easy to be deceitful) and almost exact square the Midheaven (what becomes known to all). I wonder if he will reveal he has a girlfriend very soon?
In conclusion, I will reiterate to the Querent that while there is opportunity to have a relationship with this New Guy, why would you want to? There is an old saying – or song lyric, I can’t remember which – that goes: Here comes another one, just like the other one...
In the Horary chart, the Moon (Querent’s co-ruler) is “besieged” (taken prisoner) by Uranus (volatile) and Mars (anger). Not a good position. I strongly sense this New Guy is energetically similar to the Old Guy….
The Querent's natal chart shows a strong need for mental as well as emotional and physical connection. I doubt she will get what she is looking for with this New Guy, and if neither one suddenly detaches from the other (Mercury opposing Chiron in Aquarius before the sextile (opportunity) between Mercury and Jupiter perfects), I predict – sadly, I might add – more of the same old, same old….
Blessings,
Mary Hawkins
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